How to choose my bridesmaids
The wedding party can make or break your day. It’s to understand that technically there is no right or wrong way to choosing your party but know that having your best people around you can only make the day more fun and magical. However, it can be hard to choose and get past the obligations that may be in your life. After being in countless weddings and professionally photographing many, here is what I learned.
1. You can have as many as you want.
Again, there are no standard rules to weddings outside the legal obligations of a licensed officiant and documentation within your county of the marriage. Most of the wedding rules are held within society’s standards, the couple’s moms, and the creation of social media. If there is something that doesn’t settle with you, don’t do it? IT IS YOUR WEDDING. Therefore, you are welcome to as many bridesmaids as you want. On average, a bride will have 5-10 bridesmaids, if this is what you want to hear.
2. Ignore your obligations if it means ruining your day.
I have been to countless weddings where a bridesmaid (literally) will be the one to hold up the entire timeline. Not the bride, the bridesmaid. Typically I have seen that these are the bridesmaids that were family obligated or a significant other that is not actually close to the bride. As much as you feel this obligation is something to fill, know that in most cases, if this person is worth your time, they will move forward past not being in your wedding. Alone if you are only asking this person with serious hesitation and under the pressure of family ties, I’d say she is not the one, bro.
3. Choose the people who are going to lift you up, not psych you out.
Surrounding yourself with the right people on a daily basis is important. Choosing a bridesmaid should be someone who is going to lift you the day of your wedding. Someone fully supportive, drama-less, and will pump you up the moment they see you. You do not need someone to surround you the day of your wedding who is naturally drama focused and unreliable. This will only bring more stress to your day.
4. The people who have always been there for you and your relationship.
You need to choose the people who have been nothing but supportive of who you are and who you want to be. But also remember that your bridesmaids should be people who are supportive of your relationship. Going on five years in my marriage, surrounding yourself with people who support your marriage and do everything to protect it is invaluable. This all starts with the day you are official. Remember that when not only choosing bridesmaids but choosing your friends. Drama-less life and the girls that LEAD the dance party in celebrating your marriage.
5. Make yourself a checklist
Supportive of me and my fiancé
Reliable
Drama-less
Has been there for me since day one
Has a way to pump me up when they are around
Who comes to mind?
Hope this post is able to assist you in the right direction of your next bridal party.
Kind regards,
Emily
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